Judi Oliver (Tune-in program)
Hi there, my name is Judi Oliver and I am a child therapist at the Miriam Centre. I provide child therapy for children of all ages and also run a parenting program called tune-in.
The Tune-in program is run over a ten week period either individually or in a group setting. In the program we identify and address any bonding and attachment issues and provide therapeutic support to strengthen parent-child relationships.
In the program I use a method of filming the parent and the child together in my play room and then use the data from the filming to discuss with the parent various aspects of their relationship and communications with their child. I have found that this method is very gentle and non-confronting and extremely effective in helping parents to understand their children's needs, and their own responses.
Attachment styles are handed down and learnt from generation to generation, so that an insecurely attached adult may not know how to form a strong attachment to their child. Adults with unresolved attachment issues are often vulnerable to difficulties in forming, and enjoying adult relationships in which they feel emotionally safe and secure. New relationships are affected by the patterns of attachment that have been formed through the life cycle and across generations, and by the expectations that have been developed in past relationships. There are strong links between insecure adult attachments and marital dissatisfaction because if an adult does not feel safe with others, s/he will tend to be either rejecting of their partner or overly clingy.
As a therapist I explore with the parents in the program their own experiences as a child and how helpful or otherwise their experience was. As we go through this process the parents build and strengthen their own capacities to parent in a more sensitive and insightful way and to develop and strengthen their own skills in being able to reflect on their own responses in more empathetic ways and to regulate their own emotions and their own observational skills.
The program provides a simple protocol for clients to recognise where they are not attuned to their child's cues, and provides a map for parents to enable them to resolve their own issues so they can attune to, and attend to, their child's needs.
Parents who have completed the program have found they are more equipped to provide a healthy emotional environment for their child which has been far more satisfying to them as parents, and as a result their confidence in their parenting abilities has increased significantly, as well as removing many of the issues for the child that stem from being insecurely attached.
We know that when children feel safe and secure they have no need to defend themselves and are free to explore their world. We also know that if children feel threatened, exposed, criticised, or vulnerable to attack they stop exploring their world and use their energy to defend and protect themselves.
We, here at the Miriam Centre are committed to providing a place to support parents to provide a safe environment for children because we know that when children feel safe they are open to developing new capacities and to enjoying their lives.
The program is open for all parents, caregivers, and foster parents who wish to improve the quality of their relationship with their child.
Hi there, my name is Judi Oliver and I am a child therapist at the Miriam Centre. I provide child therapy for children of all ages and also run a parenting program called tune-in.
The Tune-in program is run over a ten week period either individually or in a group setting. In the program we identify and address any bonding and attachment issues and provide therapeutic support to strengthen parent-child relationships.
In the program I use a method of filming the parent and the child together in my play room and then use the data from the filming to discuss with the parent various aspects of their relationship and communications with their child. I have found that this method is very gentle and non-confronting and extremely effective in helping parents to understand their children's needs, and their own responses.
Attachment styles are handed down and learnt from generation to generation, so that an insecurely attached adult may not know how to form a strong attachment to their child. Adults with unresolved attachment issues are often vulnerable to difficulties in forming, and enjoying adult relationships in which they feel emotionally safe and secure. New relationships are affected by the patterns of attachment that have been formed through the life cycle and across generations, and by the expectations that have been developed in past relationships. There are strong links between insecure adult attachments and marital dissatisfaction because if an adult does not feel safe with others, s/he will tend to be either rejecting of their partner or overly clingy.
As a therapist I explore with the parents in the program their own experiences as a child and how helpful or otherwise their experience was. As we go through this process the parents build and strengthen their own capacities to parent in a more sensitive and insightful way and to develop and strengthen their own skills in being able to reflect on their own responses in more empathetic ways and to regulate their own emotions and their own observational skills.
The program provides a simple protocol for clients to recognise where they are not attuned to their child's cues, and provides a map for parents to enable them to resolve their own issues so they can attune to, and attend to, their child's needs.
Parents who have completed the program have found they are more equipped to provide a healthy emotional environment for their child which has been far more satisfying to them as parents, and as a result their confidence in their parenting abilities has increased significantly, as well as removing many of the issues for the child that stem from being insecurely attached.
We know that when children feel safe and secure they have no need to defend themselves and are free to explore their world. We also know that if children feel threatened, exposed, criticised, or vulnerable to attack they stop exploring their world and use their energy to defend and protect themselves.
We, here at the Miriam Centre are committed to providing a place to support parents to provide a safe environment for children because we know that when children feel safe they are open to developing new capacities and to enjoying their lives.
The program is open for all parents, caregivers, and foster parents who wish to improve the quality of their relationship with their child.
